Berry kindergartners say 'I do' to friendship
by Daniel Bell
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Berry Elementary students celebrate kindergarten wedding.
Berry Elementary students celebrate kindergarten wedding.
Berry Kindergarten Wedding
Kaitlyn Cowan, the bride, and Sam Tullis, the groom, hug after saying their friendship vows during the Kindergarten Wedding on Friday. (Ryan Smith, RN-T.com)
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Most brides fear rain on their wedding days, but fortunately, the showers paused shortly before the start of the Berry College Elementary and Middle School kindergarten wedding Friday morning.

The faux wedding ceremony, a 17-year tradition at the school, is complete with tiny tuxes, plastic top hats, white dresses, bouquets, organ and piano music, friendship vows, and a ring bearer. The ceremony may be pretend, but the life lessons and formalities are real.

“Friends help you when fall down, and friends cheer for you when you win. Friends are forever,” read Brian Paul, playing the role of preacher.

Mary Niedrach’s kindergarten class at BCEMS studies one letter of the alphabet per week, and when they reach W, the class studies weddings. Students learned about wedding customs of cultures all around the world and were asked to talk to their parents about their weddings.

“It’s a lot of writing and talking about weddings,” said Niedrach.

After the friendship wedding ceremony at Berry’s Frost Chapel, the bridal party and their almost 200 guests headed back to the their school building for a full-fledged reception, complete with wedding cake, punch, a chocolate fountain and a bouquet tossing.

The kids said the reception is their favorite part, but Niedrach said she often hears from former students who talk about how important the event was to them.

The youngsters draw their roles in the ceremony from a hat and have only a week to prepare for the big day. Some read poems or from the Bible, and some played the piano or sang. Niedrach said regardless of their job, the kids work hard and have fun.

“I love kids, and everything they do is just marvelous,” she said. “It’s so sweet and wonderful. If I got married again, I’d have all kids in it.”
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beccawa
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March 19, 2010
I don't understand how this is anymore perverse or strange than kids playing pretend or putting on a play! It's innocent, it's fun and the children learn about friendship.
4lowertax
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March 19, 2010
It is so nice to have a world filled with choices. You can choose what kind of car to drive, what to have for dinner, where to go to work, where your kids go to school. Crucible, looks like you made the best choice for your children. Every parent wants to know their child is getting the BEST education out there. You are writing in the BERRY Kindergarten Wedding Forum. Would your time better be spent playing with your kids, helping with homework, running around the yard playing catch, volunteering with your childrens school, reading books with your kids etc. You are wasting your energy on something that you do NOT believe in. Whether your kids are 2 or 20 they still need your attention!
crucible
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March 17, 2010
Oh, and by the by, it's also nice to be able to strut your attitudes of superiority behind the same anonymity that we all enjoy on this forum. For all we know, that might be the way you act all the time. Who knows.
crucible
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March 17, 2010
Oh, excuse me. Berry is a far superior school than the one my children attend. I get it.
busybusybusy
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March 17, 2010
Well, I have to agree with 4lowertax. Really, this is a school function for Berry Elementary School. For those who don't get it, who would never let their children participate in something like this, there are plenty of other schools for you to send your children to. I'm still not sure what is so creepy about playing dress-up and promising to be friends, but if that bothers you, it bothers you. I guess it's nice for you to have an anonymous forum where you can say anything you like and no one knows who you are. Maybe if you had been given the opportunity to promise to be kind when you were five years old, you wouldn't have to criticize something you clearly don't know anything about. By the way, I wonder how long Berry's waiting list is.
crucible
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March 16, 2010
I have to agree with all of those that find this a little odd. This is NOT an age-appropriate activity. I wouldn't let my children participate in something of this nature. This society already rushes children through childhood, why this? I also FIRMLY believe that most children of this age KNOW what a wedding is and what it entails. For adults to argue that it's "cute" and "how dare you project your perversions onto such an innocent thing", wake up and smell the coffee.
Roman73
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March 15, 2010
How very lovely. It's wonderful to see children get a chance to participate in authentic performance and learn about friendship at the same time.
POPSnewsmanstates
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March 14, 2010
GapitalC
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March 13, 2010
Ever notice that if someone calls Voter on her ignorance, she quickly logs in with her other two accounts to agree with herself?
parker72
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March 13, 2010
What kind of perverted or creepy mind does it take to see something like Berry's kindergarten wedding as perverted or creepy? You should think long and hard about your own mindset, because obviously there is something wrong with you. I am grateful that my children go to this school and are taught to respect and care about each other. The kindergarten wedding is a pledge of friendship and it gives the kids a chance to dress up and have fun and learn about ceremony and cultures. Wow, a school that spends a whole day celebrating the importance of being kind to each other. Yeah, that must be creepy. Some people need to get their minds out of the gutter.
4lowertax
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March 13, 2010
This school function was not about or for any of the postings authors. If any of you have this much time to stick your nose in business that is not your own, why not run for office and get us out of the mess we are in politically, financially and socially. This function was "over the top", Thank You, Mary for teaching children OVER THE TOP, Berry Teachers are the BEST, that is the reason parents PAY school taxes then turn around and PAY to send their children to Berry. Finally, its all about the kids, if they are learning and having fun doing it so be it. Why not use your energy to find a way for OUR public school teachers to keep their jobs? Berry parents do NOT want your opinion. This again was for the fun and friendship of the kids, not public opinion.
OusideLookingIn
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March 13, 2010
Kind of have to agree with the others here. While I don't see it as perverted, I do feel that this is just a tad over the top. Why not just leave the discussion based on types of weddings as they pertain to other cultures, talking to the parents about their ceremony, or just take the letter "W" and discuss woods or water followed by a trip around the campus?

I hate to admit my age here, but back in the good old days of the Berry College Early Learning Center we looked forward to the Christmas Pagent, not the Friendship Wedding. Although, being politically correct these days either one seems like it would bring about criticism.

Ode to the women that helped get me started:

Ms. Jenkins

Ms. McSherry

Ms. Adams

Ms. Boggs

Ms. Schlosberg

After almost 30 years, I still remember all of you!
busybusybusy
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March 13, 2010
Which part of this is creepy? The part where they promise, "I will be kind to you. I will share with you. I will help you if you need it."? Or maybe the part where they have a conversation with their parents? Or could it be learning about other cultures? My goodness, what are they doing in that kindergarten? Sounds like education to me. I'm sorry, if you think this is creepy, you obviously 1) know very little about young children, 2) know very little about education, or 3) are creepy yourself. Congratulations Mrs. Niedrach and BCEMS on a beautiful, happy, fun educational experience.
RyanM
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March 12, 2010
Whoa.... Very Very Creepy.

rxman
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March 12, 2010
I also agree with Voter. This is something that I would never allow my child to participate in.
quacker
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March 12, 2010
Yeah, it is sorta strange.
wish2010
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March 12, 2010
I agree 100% with Voter.
4lowertax
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March 12, 2010
You are the one that is not right, taking the innocence of a friendship marriage and putting it in a perverted sense. With all the bad things that are occurring in the world today, just maybe if you had a kindergarten teacher like Mary Niedrach when you were that age you would see this as a way to love and care for each other instead of a perverted ceremony. Shame on YOU!
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